Today, it’s Harmony Day in Australia which is all about standing up for and defending inclusiveness, respect and a sense of belonging for everyone.
However, while it’s much easier to talk and wax lyrically about acceptance, tolerance and understanding, it is much harder to implement these essential values into the daily grind.
While we might fight for the popular causes of social injustice, especially when they are shouted out by the media, we so often miss and even walk over the supposedly invisible battlers who even live alongside us. Their plight might slip through the radar but if we truly used our eyes and ears and slowed down to walk in their shoes, we would know that they could use an extra helping hand to feel valued and included. Given my personal situation, I have a real heart for all who live with a disability. While many go on and become high achievers in a wide range of fields despite their challenges, many are marginalised and living in very difficult and even inhumane circumstances.
The struggle is though, how can we as individuals be more inclusive and help even the most marginalised members of our community feel respected and included?
This is quite a challenge. We are all juggling more balls than we could ever humanly manage. Moreover, when your life’s zipping along in the super fast lane, it can be very hard to slow yourself down. Not necessarily to a grinding halt but the slow, indeed very slow pace, required by someone who is struggling.
As someone with mobility issues, I am constantly struck by those I love who instead of walking with me, charge off into the distance as though their lives depended on it. They can’t walk with me. However, I am just as guilty. I can easily get frustrated when I’m helping the battlers with the reading at school and have to remind myself to be patient. Although I want to help, I also get frustrated because I am having to slow my speed down… the very same way a fast walker gets frustrated slowing down for me.
However, if we all just try, that has to start making some improvement. This is why I love Pink’s epic motivational song: Try:
You’ve gotta get up and try, and try, and try
Gotta get up and try, and try, and try
You gotta get up and try, and try, and try
Multiculturalism and accepting cultural difference is a major part of Harmony Day. In the past, Australia had the White Australia Policy and a very narrow perception of what it was to be Australian. This vision even excluded our indigenous Aboriginal people. Our Indigenous Australians weren’t allowed to vote federally until 1967. That is a national shame and disgrace and it’s just the tip of the iceberg.Prospective immigrants were also given a notoriously racist language test as well…especially when they came from an “undesirable” country. As a nation, some of our sins run deep.
In more recent times, as in other countries, a policy of multiculturalism has been adopted and we have been encouraged to explore and accept diverse cultures, even absorbing them into our own way of life. This process so often begins with food but gradually extends to other areas through the bonds of friendship and love. Without multiculturalism and diversity our community would be bland, grey and dull.
Countering these values of inclusiveness, respect and a sense of belonging for all, we have what I’ll call a range of “bullies”. They come in different guises: “nationalism”, “racism”, “fear” or simply being too busy. As people take more of a stand against these bullies, we are now also being asked not to be passive bystanders as well. Rather, we need to be whistle blowers, standing up and protecting the weak or disadvantaged against these bullies with their abuse of power.
Taking this a step further, responsibility also needs to extend beyond the bystanders to include the by-passers as well. The story of the Good Samaritan provides a great illustration of how a by-passer can walk passed someone in need or alternatively they could stop and help. Of course, this reminds me once again of that all-important Golden Rule: treat others as you would like to be treated as well as the Inverse Golden Rule where we treat others as they would like to be treated. These are an excellent guide for how to treat others.
At the same time, I must admit that there is so much demanding our compassion that we have to be selective. As individuals, we can’t stop and save everyone. Indeed, sometimes, we could even use more than a helping hand ourselves. Yet, if each one of us reaches out to even a few, then collectively, at least in theory, everyone could be reached, included and belong. That’s if they want to.
Getting back to celebrating Harmony Day, I was very touched by the Harmony Day assembly held at our children’s school on Friday. My daughter’s class sang Somewhere Over the Rainbow in sign language and the kindergarten children sang Twinkle Twinkle Little Star in Japanese. We also had parents from Japan and India talk about their childhoods in their own countries, which were surprisingly similar and just proved what my grandfather has always said: “The Geese go barefoot everywhere”. A friend of mine also performed the most sensational Indian Dance and it was the first time I’ve ever been able to experience its incredible beauty and intricacies and it was such an incredible journey, which I intend to pursue further.
Here is my little contribution to Harmony Day. It’s Twinkle Twinkle Little Star where each line is sung such in a different language.I did actually try to find a verion in an Aboriginal language but so far have had no luck. Will have to follow that up.
Twinkle Twinkle Little Star English
Brille, brille, petite étoile French
お空の星よ (osora no hoshiyo) Japanese
En el cielo y en el mar, Spanish
He tai mana to rite Maori
Funkel, funkel, kleiner Stern German
Ako namamangha kung ano ikaw! Phillipino
I also stumbled across this Australian variation of Twinkle Twinkle:
Twinkle, twinkle little star,
Daddy drives a rotten car.
Press the button, pull the choke,
Off we go in a cloud of smoke.
Twinkle, twinkle little star,
Daddy drives a rotten car.
Source: Far Out Brussel Sprout. compiled by June Factor illustrated by Peter Viska Oxford University Press, 1983.
So this Harmony Day, I encourage you to think about how you can support inclusiveness, respect and a sense of belonging for everyone. To achieve this, we each need to get out of our own backyards and start venturing further afield. Take some risks and start talking to people who might take you out of your comfort zone. If you have a dog, you already know that you meet all sorts walking your dog and if you don’t have a dog, go and borrow one and hit the streets. You never know who you might meet. As the song said many years ago: “it only takes a spark, to get a fire going.”
I’m not only daring you. I’m also challenge myself.This is not an easy mission at all but nothing worth fighting for ever was.
By the way, a month ago, I was involved in a world-wide blogging movement to promote compassion…#1000 Speak. This month, we are writing about bullying. This is my contribution to the project. I thought Harmony Day was a good example of how we as the Australian community have decided to stand up against a range of bullying which stems from intolerance of difference in others.
Bullying which comes in so many, different guises has the same effect of crushing and tormenting it’s victims until they somehow find a way to stand tall. Nothing seems to deflate a bully better than strength. Somehow, those being bullied need to inflate their self-worth. Believe in themselves and stand tall. After all, nobody is meant to stand small…not even our kids. After all, you know I’m not talking about physical size but a state of mind. So no matter where you are in this hotchpotch symphony we call community, know that you deserve to be valued, treasured and accepted for who you are. Moreover, you also need to do the same and pass it on. Then, we will all be able to grow into our own shoes we and walk our beautiful planet with pride.
Love & Happy Harmony Day,
Reblogged this on Time for my thoughts… and commented:
Great post for this month’s #1000Speak on Building from Bullying
I tell my family I don’t like multi-culturalism. Of course my family consists of Japanese, Irish, Ukrainian, Chinese, Hawaiian, Chamorro, Norwegian and a few others I forget but whom I think I don’t like either.
Our family is a like that too and it makes for great meals. My mother-in-law was a red head and most of her grandchildren have married people with dark, olive complexions and dark hair. This probably isn’t a conscious thing but it does remind me of my mother’s refusal to marry someone who wore glasses. She was wanting to eliminate short-sightedness from the gene pool.
Thank you very much for the reblog, Carol. Great to get the message out!!
Reblogged this on carlpeters and commented:
Yes, yes, yes! I am doin exactly this at this point in my life! It is hard work but if everyone does the same then everything will be OK! P.S. love the aold Aussie version of Twinkle…
We need more Harmony Days- in his crazy troubled world where we can focus on our similarities as humans rather than our individual differences.
Rowena I love that Pink song also. My son struggles to go to school because for him everything about school is hard, especially the social stuff with other kids. We try to teach him that he can be all he wants to be, even with his extra challenges. I get tired of the kids that think its funny to tease him. I just want him to be able to go to school without being annoyed. Bullying happens everywhere and I am hoping things get easier for him as he matures, but I have my doubts.
So true, Monika. I met up with a manager from Muscular Dystrophy in South Australia and she goes into schools when a student has MD and explains things to the class and eases their integration. She told me that she tells the kids that everyone has red blood. I really loved that. I had struggled to come up with some kind of commonality that didn’t have exceptions and that is it. Loved it!
My husband and I were bullied at school and weren’t surprised when our son had son issues and in year it was really bad and he was totally ostracised and it was awful to see him tortured like that. He developed giardia which really caused trouble and the bullying was terrible. The school was very good and I have had good support from staff. I will email you.
Thanks Rowena after a chat to his teacher things have settled for now and he is smiling again when he comes home from school. Thanks for the email you are very kind.
We have always had very good support from their teachers. I also strongly believe in sharing information and experiences. Not everything will resonate but perhaps something will or just even knowing your family is not alone, the only ones. It certainly helps us!! xx Ro
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