Coffee By Moonlight

Welcome to another Weekend Coffee Share!

How was your week? I hope you’ve had a good week but I also understand that many of you have a lot on your plate and things aren’t easy. That’s what friends and community is for. Somewhere to rest your weary soul and feel the tension release.

If we were having coffee this week, we’d be looking at the night sky and the stars and philosophising. I’ve been in a reflective, contemplative and even vegetative state for the last few days after the excitement of our son’s triumphant return from the Australian Scouting Jamboree. It’s been a welcome relief from the weeks of renovating and cleaning which went on while he was away.


Of course, when you go into his room now, it looks like it’s always been this way. That we’ve done nothing, which in effect glosses over all our hard work. In some ways, this defeats part of the purpose of renovating his room. That is to show him we love him and for him to look at his room and feel loved, valued, special. At the same time, we didn’t want him to feel guilty or that we weren’t happy to do the work. It truly has been a labour of love where our hearts have been turned inside out and plastered to those walls. Will he still feel the intensity and purpose of that love if he can’t appreciate what it took? I don’t know.

Perhaps. we should’ve stuck post-it notes all over the place, pointing out all our many hidden battles. “Patched hole in wall here”, “This skirting board has been sculpted to accommodate crooked wall, poorly situated powerpoints and network cables”. Or, perhaps I should simply stick a post-it  with “OMG” in huge caps on there. There were also edges we went over and over with blue then white then blue paint as we kept wandering out of the lines. I could also write a note documenting how my husband was staying up really late working on the room every night after exceptionally early starts and doing overtime at work. Of course, through the usual twists and turns of fate, a really busy time at work just had to coincide with an urgent project at home. The endless days of very heavy rain also slowed things down.

So, we ended up having quite a tight deadline towards the end. Of course, we didn’t need anyone to tell us that our best intentions would be destroyed if his bed was still out in the lounge room and his room under construction when he returned.  After 11 nights of camping on a rough stretcher, we would have been done for. The absolute worst parents in the world!!

I should also add that just the whole prospect of painting the skirting boards for his room, triggered a terrible near panic attack where I became completely paralyzed by my fear of failure, making a mistake: Scaredy Mum!The boards were yet to be fitted so it wasn’t difficult. However,  as heavy rain prevented me from getting started, these fears really festered badly. Sure, it’s difficult to know what your capabilities are as a person living with chronic health and disability but that’s no excuse for dropping your bundle. Particular now I’ve been reminded about another aspect of Lao Tzu’s quote: “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”. At least for me, that first step is the hardest part and after that it’s smooth sailing. I did encounter difficulties painting the wall and became dizzy but I put in a respectable effort.

The dog had a bit to say about my efforts there and also wrote his tips for fighting fear: Dog’s Guide to Fighting Fear

In the end, we know full well that the lad won’t appreciate what went into fixing up his room until he’s a Dad doing the same for his kids. Then, he’ll know and we might even get a phone call.

That’s just the way it is.

So, now that’s done, I’m pleased to announce that I’ve hung up my paintbrush and handed in my resignation. No more renovating! Hey, who am I kidding? When you have an old crooked house, renovation is like the good old days of painting the Sydney Harbour Bridge. Once it’s finally over a one end, you’re back to the beginning again!

By the way, Mister did appreciate his room. No huge leaps of excitement but it was deemed “very good”.


Also, he said returning home was “weird”. Weird to have electricity again after 12 days going without and it was also “weird” having somewhere “comfortable to sleep”. Not unsurprisingly,  since his return he’s spent much time playing on his iPad, curled up in his blanket in bed.

I should also add that after missing Mister all that time, the dogs barely spoke to him when he first came back and gave him the real cold shoulder treatment. By the end of the night, however, all was forgiven.

jonathon & bilbo

Boy & Dog Reunited.

School goes back in 11 days so now this naughty, rebellious little night owl re-establishing something approaching normal sleeping patterns. Somehow, I need to acclimatize to waking up at 6.30AM to drive our daughter to school 45 minutes away. Instead of being able to have a daytime nap, I’ll be staying up there to bring her home in the afternoon. This is also going to dramatically play around with my writing and getting on with the Book Project, especially until I find a cosy nook where I can write and call my own. Once she’s settled, she’ll be catching the train and bus and I’ll probably just be dropping her at the station and picking her up. She might even become fully independent. I’m just playing it by ear.

Tomorrow, we’ll be off to buy Mister’s high school uniform. Not sure whether I’m truly ready for that either. That said, it would help if I got out of my pyjamas!

In terms of my writing in the last week, I’ve been rather inspired by Mister’s trip away at the Australian Scouting Jamboree and all his adventures. I had pretty low expectations of finding out much of what happened at camp and I was delighted to overhear him talking on the phone…his  Jamboree Tips. He sounded so grown up.These make for entertaining reading.


As time went by, tales of Funnel Web Spiders began to emerge. These are considered the most deadly spiders in the world. Apparently, while I was concerned about him being out in a tent in the heavy rain, he was scared of Funnel Webs. It is mating season and the male funnel webs are out on the prowl in search of true love. A couple of funnel webs were found close to their tent and then a warning was issued that funnel webs had been found in scout’s bags returning home. Mister promptly ejected his bag out of his room and dumped it at MY feet. Perhaps, I should’ve been proud that he had such faith in his old Mum but not being the most attentive soul, I didn’t have a lot of faith myself. I have bifocals and sometimes they even miss the blatantly obvious. At the same time, I have  my self-respect and didn’t want to stoop to the “wait til your father gets home” routine. You can read the full story here.

book pile

I am also trying to reduce my book pile. After scouring the book shelves, however, I’ve only found 6 books to move on. For some reason, I just can’t find the heart to be ruthless to such good friends and good intentions. Perhaps, I’ll have better luck with the kids’ books. Trouble is, I like reading some of them too!

Anyway, thank you so much for joining me for coffee and I hope you have a great week ahead. This has been part of the Weekend Coffee Share  and here’s the link up.

xx Rowena










18 thoughts on “Coffee By Moonlight

  1. bettylouise31

    The feeling
    Ust be good to finished the lovely blue room. The spiders were interesting. We have a couple poisonous one here. The brown recluse and the aggressive house spider. I keep forgetting the black widow. Most spiders eat harmfull insects.
    Like you I keep my books but moving does reduce weighty objects. I find good homes for them.

  2. merrildsmith

    House renovation is never done, but I’m sure you’re glad to have finished your son’s room. My husband has been working on turning one daughter’s bedroom into a study, but there are so many other projects to be done. . .
    Good luck with your week!

  3. Deborah

    His room looks wonderful! I don’t think anyone ever appreciates the details that go into any project. The end project looks so good that people think it must have been easier than it actually was. 😉

  4. roweeee Post author

    So true, Deborah. Our scout group recently revamped their hall. Actually it was all but rebuilt and we were having a picnic at the park next door today and none of us could remember what it looked like before. It was the same thing. Looked like it had always been there in it’s current format. That process took a lot of work !!!!!!

  5. roweeee Post author

    After I got married, my father got someone in to remove the pink floral Laura Ashley wallpaper I’d always hated and painted the walls white. I’d ever tried ripping the stuff off. Mum loved it because it was so little girly but I was 12 and not a girly girl at all. Yuck!
    Good luck with your week too. We are going sailing at Palm Beach on Tuesday. Second time I’ve been back since Dad sold the house. I do miss it but we’ve been so busy and the weather has been awful so wouldn’t have gone there much anyway. His boat is moored just near the house. It’s new to him and this will be our first visit. Later on, we should be able to sleep onboard. Looking forward to it. Hope your week goes well too! xx Rowena

  6. roweeee Post author

    Yes, spiders do have their good uses.
    We haven’t moved for 15 years, which has caused us all sorts of trouble. I give the kids books to the school librarian and she also took a lot of their toys, which was great. She thought I was great too and let me into the kitchen to make a coffee etc. We became great mates.

  7. Margaretha

    Great renovation! I know what you mean with old houses and endless renovations – ours is 400 years old and I shall need several life times to renovate it from foundations to roof!

  8. Tails Around the Ranch

    As always, Rowena…you serve up a terrific cuppa coffee. Never fear, we all ‘lose the cheese of our crackers’ when it comes to raising kids and doing right by them. I think you’ve done exceptional thus far! ღ

  9. trentpmcd

    Sounds like a very busy week. I may have missed it, but is your daughter back yet? And, well, there are some things down there that I don’t want to run into, like salt water crocodiles. I think Funnel Spiders are on that list!
    I’m sure your next couple of weeks will be busy too, I just hope they are busy in a good way 🙂

  10. roweeee Post author

    Thanks, Tara. I got through it okay at the time but have ached afterwards. Carpal tunnel has flared up for the first time in years and all sorts of aches. Am about to go for a walk to see if some movement helps…reverse psychology!

  11. roweeee Post author

    Thanks Trent. She came home for a few days and went back to my parents’ place and is still there. The last I heard she’s had 2-3 electronic devices going at once but has also been practicing her swimming. We all go sailing with my Dad tomorrow so that’ll be fun. I am working on my smile post and it’ll be up today. xx Ro

  12. roweeee Post author

    Wow! That sounds incredible to live in a 400 year old house, except from a maintenance point of view. Does it have lots of nooks and crannies? Europeans only settled in Australia just over 2000 years ago.

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