Weekend Coffee Share 26th November, 2017.

Welcome to Another Weekend Coffee Share!

If you were coming my way for coffee this weekend, you’d be wanting to shut yourself away in a coolroom. It’s been very hot all weekend and it feels like the sun is lashing out at Winter and digging in its heels.

How was your week?

My week can pretty much be summed up by: puppies, daughter’s school formal preparations, researching for the book project.


First things first, the pups are absolutely irresistible. For those of you who are new to Beyond the Flow, I have become a dog foster Mum for a local pet rescue group called Paws & Claws. We are currently fostering Yoda and Dobbie, two male kelpie pups. They’re now about 8 weeks old and we’ve had them since they were only about 4 weeks old and smaller than an adult guinea pig. They were bottle fed at this stage and incredibly cute. We have two 5 month old puppies of our own, Rosie Roo & Isaac (Zac) as well as our older dog, five year old Lady. While it took Lady about a week to accept our pups, she still hasn’t totally warmed to the “micro pups” and growls when they approach, although I did catch her letting one kiss her repeatedly on the nose this morning. The micro pups are off to get desexed and have gone off to another carer’s tonight for transportation to the vet. So, with just our three, it’s been pretty quiet tonight.

Rosie & Zac BW


Moving onto our daughter’s school formal. She’s 11 almost 12 and will be finishing Year 6 at the end of the year and going into High School next year. This change also marks the transition from being a child and becoming a teen, a development I am watching with mixed interest. We already have a son who is 13 and in high school so we’ve already ventured down this path but it’s going to be different with a daughter but I’m just not quite sure how at this stage. At the very least, there’s the cost of make up which has already skyrocketed thanks to dance.

Anyway, last Thursday, I took our daughter shopping to buy her formal dress. Their “formal” is more of a semi-formal and it’s not in the league of hiring limos or anything like that. Thank goodness! However, we did need to find THE DRESS and as many of you will know, that’s not an easy thing. I asked her whether she wanted to have the whole browsing experience or just find something straight away and she was sort of in the middle. I had the feeling that she definitely wanted to go shopping with me for it and turn the process into an experience. After all, she’s the one who talks to me about having “mother-daughter time”.

The funny thing about this whole shopping experience, is that my daughter and I are polar opposites in the size department and it was so strange because neither of us fitted into anything much in way too many of the shops. She seems to be an XXS and I’m an XL and 174 cm tall.

She found a dress she loves. We had afternoon tea at a cafe together and then ran into her friend and her Mum and promptly lost both girls in the crowded shopping centre and were talking to security until we finally spotted them. Of course, they’d lost track of time.

Meanwhile, I’ve been engrossed in a research project looking at a group of Irish Famine orphans from Midleton Workhouse, County Cork who sailed out to Australia onboard the John Knox in 1850. I am descended from one of these orphan girls, Bridget Donovan, and started researching the other girls to shed light on her journey. This has now evolved into quite a philosophical journey as I look at how God, fate, determination play out in their lives. So, far, it seems they all went their separate ways.

Anyway, what have you been up to this week? I hope you’ve had a great week.

Best wishes,



16 thoughts on “Weekend Coffee Share 26th November, 2017.

  1. Barbara In Caneyhead

    A least you have had variety in your life. I would love a piece of that pie you have!
    I think the key with kids turning to teens is to make sure you stay connected by one on one conversations. The trick is finding where and when is the most natural time for the teen to open up and stopping to really listen when they do, even if it isn’t a good time for you. Usually my teens talked most when they found me in the kitchen alone, or when I went to their room to say goodnight.
    You are always welcome in Caneyhead!

  2. Kathleen Howell

    Your pups are so adorable, I’m sure it’s tough to let them go! Glad you had some fun mother/daughter time, how exciting getting ready for the upcoming formal.. Have a great week!

  3. Tails Around the Ranch

    Well aware of that heat…it’s been in the upper 60’s to mid-70’s here. Hard to get into the holiday spirit wearing sandals and shorts from my usual mode of thinking. Praying for some rain or snow so I can stop working int he garden and watering! 29 days until the big holiday and I am no where near in the mood. Give the pups extra ear scratches from me.❀︎

  4. duskalert

    I just lovedd this post.
    Your relationship with your daughter sounds so cuteπŸ˜πŸ’–πŸ’–
    Loved the way how you spend your time with your daughter n puppies.

  5. Rowena Post author

    Monika, I know what you mean about not being ready for Christmas. Before that, our daughter finishes primary school, which is one of those line in the sand moments. She has a formal next week and it’s such a thing, as I’m sure you can appreciate.
    The pups were desexed today and it hasn’t quitened them down. Still feisty. Siblings make great chew toys.
    The pups thanked you for the ear scratches.
    Cuddles for your too from us too.
    xx Rowena

  6. Rowena Post author

    Thanks so much for the suggestions, Barbara. You’re right about talking in the kitchen and I also find the car is a great place. It’s so important to stay connected and we need to develop something of a think inner skin while being soft and approachable on the outside.

  7. Tails Around the Ranch

    Aw yes, the big ‘first dance’ preparations. Have fun and best wishes to the Miss. It’s a big moment in growing up and should be memorable. The pups are still pretty young to notice a significant different in their energy levels. All you can do is stay away from the Piranha like teeth and laugh at their antics. Soon they’ll be going to fur-ever homes and it’ll be a proud moment when you see how well socialized they are for their new families. Have a great week.

  8. Rowena Post author

    Yes, these pups are knock em down, bounce straight up at the moment. We’ve decided to have a breather after these pups. I think my husband is sick of the puddles atm. BTW I am currently munching on some Christmas stollen I bought down the street and heated up in my sandwich press. Ooh! It’s sooo good! Hope you’re having a great week!
    xx Rowena

  9. Irene Waters 19 Writer Memoirist

    How lovely that your daughter wants mother daughter time. It must have been fun shopping and I hope that we will see a picture of her in her formal dress. Things have changed so much since I went to school. There was no dance to mark the transition. The boys wouldn’t have gone if there had been. Does the move to high school bring her closer to home?
    Your project sound fascinating. What are you going to do with your research once completed?
    Hope you have a good week. Are the micro pups back with you?
    Cheers Irene xxx

  10. Kelly L McKenzie

    Wow, I take my hat off to you for fostering when you are so busy. I fostered one pup after our dog passed away and of course we ended up adopting her. She has turned into a lovely girl and is now unbelievably already 7. As for the formals, I well remember shopping with my daughter (now 23) for her outfit. M had the habit of being very stubborn then so I took along my much younger niece who was very patient with my daughter and acted as the go between. It was a great success!
    Your coffee pic looks delicious! What’s the pink stuff on the plate? Writing from Canada and it doesn’t look like something on offer here.

  11. New Journey

    Nothing like daughter and mom time. sounded delightful….sound like your feeling better, love the pictures of the pups, so sweet…..have a wonderful weekend….xxkat

  12. Rowena Post author

    Hi Kat,
    Think I’m turning the corner, but treading quite carefully atm with so much on. Tomorrow night is our daughter’s Year 6 formal. My head is overloaded with details but I’ll be fine.
    All the pups seemed to turn a corner this week and seem to have their sights set on the mysterious world on the other side of the front door. Yoda’s got out a few times. Zac got out today and I soon realized he was having a great game of chasings with me. He’s a slippery character. Eventually, he gave up and I can only say agreed to be caught. While I was chasing Zac, Lady took off. She was going for a drive but instead ended up around the corner. She got out again this afternoon and Geoff found her trotting towards the beach on his way home almost getting run over. This place is a mad house.
    Hope your week is going well.
    xx Ro

  13. Rowena Post author

    Hi Kelly,
    I’m so sorry I haven’t replied to your comment earlier. It ended up in my nav bar and what with the end of year and start of year madness, I’m a bit behind with the blog.
    The pink stuff on the plate was Lebanese fairyfloss from memory.
    That was a great idea taking your niece along as a go between. Great thinking 99.
    How is the weather over your way at the moment? It’s stinking hot here and we have the air-conditioner pumping. It’s even been too hot for me to go to the beach.
    Best wishes,

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