Finding Hope On Mt Disappointment.

This week, we had the best good news story here in Australia, which really warmed and electrified my heart. On Monday afternoon, word got out that Will Callaghan, a 14 year old, non-verbal youth on the Autism Spectrum, strayed away from his family on a bush walk at Mt Disappointment in Victoria, and had gone missing. He was lost in dense bushland, and it was almost like trying to find someone in a fog. You just wouldn’t know where to start, and the only way forward involved trying to think like Will and somehow trying to crawl inside his mind and body, and do everything they could to be like him.

No doubt, this is what Police and emergency service personnel are trained to do. However, trying to find Will was next level, but they went there, pulling out all the stops to lure him out. Will’s favourite song is the theme song from Thomas the Tank Engine, and they were playing that from Police cars and loud speakers in the area. They also put food out for him, and warned locals to keep an eye out. That he could help himself to their fridge, or be asleep in a bed. They also encouraged locals to fire up the BBQ, as Will particularly loved the smell of frying onions or bacon and kept repeating how much he loved his food. The local response was so enthusiastic, they had to turn people away. Indeed, it seemed there was a real public surge of love and concern for Will and wanting him found

After spending two nights in the bush, Will was found by a volunteer not far from where he went missing. Despite all he’d been through, he only had a few scratches and was pretty much fine and unscathed. Indeed, on the way to hospital, the ambulance detoured via McDonald’s, and after a check-up he was allowed to go home. It was an absolute miracle, especially after being missing for 47 hours barefoot in sub-zero temperatures without food or water.

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It was like trying to find  a needle in a haystack. Photo: https://www.film.vic.gov.au/choose-victoria/locations/mount-disappointment-state-forest

I was so struck by the efforts Police, emergency services, community, the media, everyone made  to put themselves into Will’s feet (he doesn’t like wearing shoes and was indeed found barefoot), that I needed to write about and acknowledge it myself in my own words and share it in my little space here at Beyond the Flow. I’ve never seen acceptance, understanding or empathy for someone on the Autism Spectrum on such a grand scale before. Indeed, if you could write a wish list of how you’d like people to respond, this would have to be it. Moreover, I feel that this experience has embraced this community in a way we haven’t seen before. Well, not to my knowledge anyway. I hopeit encourages people to respond to people living on the autism spectrum with greater understanding, acceptance and flexibility in the future.

As a person living with disability myself, I know what it’s like to be misunderstood and be “beyond the flow”. I get sick of having to explain myself over and over again, and so frustrated having to make so much effort just to do this basics, and there are times where every day involves conquering an Everest of some sort. I have friends with children who are non-verbal and on the Autism Spectrum, and they have their good days and their bad, but I can tell you, they adore their children and step out and advocate for them so passionately. They endure often experience discrimination, judgement, pity and being cut off from family and friends because oil and water don’t mix. Yet, they also experience a love for their child which knows no bound.

So, while I’m grateful that things have come such a long way for people living with disabilities and their families, we need to maintain this momentum and take it further. The Wills of this world are counting on us and so am I.

Lastly, I hope I have got all the lingo right through this. There are so many ways of referring to people living on the Autism Spectrum. Some are quite fine with being called “Autistic”. Others prefer to maintain the distinction between what was known as “Asbergers” and “Autism”. Others say that we’re all somewhere on the spectrum. However, the point I wanted to make, is that it’s possible for all of us to find out more about how people on the spectrum experience the world and how to relate to them without pressing any triggers. That love and acceptance should be for everyone and we need to look at ways at making community more inclusive, even if people choose to go their own way. These are difficult conversations to have without tripping over the lingo. However, we still need to try, and that’s where I’m coming from.

Love & best wishes,

Rowena

25 thoughts on “Finding Hope On Mt Disappointment.

  1. trentpmcd

    Glad it turned out well and that Will was found in good shape. I’m sure all in the vicinity are going to miss smelling barbecued onion and bacon all day, though they may not miss hearing Thomas the Tank Engine played over and over 😉

  2. Rowena Post author

    You’re welcome, Dan. I did feel it needed to get out there, especially atm when there’s so much bad news out there. I hope you and yours are safe and well.
    Best wishes,
    Rowena

  3. Rowena Post author

    Thank you very much. That post took something like a day and a half to write. Wasn’t easy but I felt it so important. Wanted to get the word out.
    Thank you so much for reading and caring.
    Best wishes,
    Rowena

  4. Rowena Post author

    I have heard Thomas played over and over when our son was yon and there was one occasion where I couldn’t get the DVD player to work and he was inconsolable and I rang Geoff at work and explained that if he wasn’t available, could she put one of the other guys on who might be able to help. Geoff is in IT and I figured one of his colleagues would be able to help if he wasn’t available. They all understood.
    Parenting can be a wonderful thing, but it also has its challenges!

  5. Tazzie

    Incredible that he was found safe and with so little injuries…that does not quite sound like I mean it too. I can not imagine how it must have been for his parents. Not knowing if he might flee the searchers, or not let them help him. I felt the country breath with such wonderful news.

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  7. Rowena Post author

    I’m glad you found it and it cheered you up. This story certainly made my week and I was so excited that he was found and the efforts that were made to understand him as a person. If we had more of this, so many problems would disappear.
    Best wishes,
    Rowena

  8. OIKOS™-Publishing

    Thank you for this very heart warming story, with a wonderful happy ending. Thank you for information about Aspergers/ Autism spectrum too. Will look like for more information. Enjoy your weekend, be well and stay save. Michael

  9. Rowena Post author

    Thanks very much, Michael. Aspergers/ Autism spectrum seems to affect a significant enough part of our community that we all need to be at least somewhat informed.
    Best wishes,
    Rowena

  10. New Journey

    Glad he was found safe and in good condition. I love that the ambulance stopped by McDonalds for him. Your story was heartfelt. Thank you for sharing this. xxxxxxxx

  11. Gary A Wilson

    Great stuff here Rowena. I’ve tried analyzing why I struggle to mix with people and especially folks with the range of disabilities you mention here. I don’t feel qualified to speak for others, but I think I suffer most from 2 things here. I don’t understand their view of the world and I don’t know how to engage without risking somehow accidentally injuring or distressing them somehow. There was this one guy in high school who I believe was autistic and he was tolerated mostly, but mocked and over looked often. He managed to carve out a life he seems happy with, but he is my one data point that I’ve seem both some of his life during and after high school. I was never able to build a relationship with him and preferred to avoid trying for the reasons above. Not much to be proud of – but this was my experience. If he ever needed something, that I could cope with and step in, but that was rare.

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